Ling & I were very close, though we were in many ways very different. The dear memories of us together in recent years are something I’d like to share.

Ling's first trip to Montreal
Upon seeing my apartment Ling wanted to take me back to Hong Kong immediately. 
She complained I did not know how to do house work, and I paid first grade price to buy second or third grade goods. My refrigerator was empty. Ling was not only a complainer; she was a person of action. She took me to the store and gave the owner a warning. Before she went back to Hong Kong, she filled up my refrigerator with all kinds of my favorite food. She acted as the older sister instead of me.

Email address
I am not a computer person.  All my email addresses were set up by her. Yahoo had a bigger memory, she open a Yahoo account for me.  Gmail could read Chinese better, then I had a gmail account. What a wonderful sister.

Smart card
Few years ago, I went home for my holiday.  I found smart card (Octopus) so convenient for the daily living that I wanted to buy one.  Ling was against this idea.  She thought it was not worth it putting a deposit to buy some thing which I only used for 2 weeks a year. The next day she bought me a smart watch as a present. It cost her many times more than the deposit amount required for the smart card. I was worth for her, I think. This was my little sister Ling, (bigger than life)

Lie
Ling taught me not to lie.  We might be able to make up a good story to lie to everyone. However, we could not lie to ourselves. When most people went to buy fake expensive labels merchandises in China.  She told me that no matter how good those fake goods were made.   A fake was a fake.  We had to be true to ourselves, and that you will not feel good buying fakes. She was not a fake she was the real ITEM.

Proud of her
When our parents got divorced 40 years ago.  Everyone around us believed that none of us would have a good future.  Ling finished her high school. She went to university.  She got her master degree.  She proved to them that without a mother, we could grow up as well or even better than some kids who came from a regular family. Ling you made us all very proud.

Trip to Thailand
Our four sisters went to Thailand together.  This was the first and last trip for the four of us. She planned the whole trip.  We just followed her and ate till our stomachs were full.
The schedule was too rushed.  This was at her speed but too fast for the other three sisters.  Anyway, we enjoyed every minute. We also planned to go to Taipei.  However, the Taipei trip will never be the same.

Ling was a person who loved her family, her friends and her work.  But she forgot to love the most important person, herself.  She pushed herself far too hard. She did two times the work any other person can physically handle and do in half the time.
Ling, words cannot describe the LOVE and ADMIRATION that we feel for you. On behalf of all of the family, we will never forget you and you will always be there in our hearts.

玲玲，

你好嗎？換了新環境適應了沒有？有沒有和爸爸在一起？請代我們好好孝順他，謝謝！

每年我生日，你是第一個給我祝賀的人。自從我移民以後，你更是每年都希望我能回來，讓你好好為我慶祝。今年我終於回來，可惜你卻在我生日前一天走了。

你的離去令我悲傷不已，但想到你終於從病痛中釋放，也算是一種安慰。還記得我回港時，你剛又進醫院進行一小手術，只聽你告訴我有關手術的情況，我已經受不了。而這只是你這數年來無數療程的一小項。你所受的痛苦，相信一定很大，每想到這一點，我便更加悲傷。

假如人生真有輪迴，我想再做你姐，希望上天能給我機會好好做一次，這次我希望上天能讓你明白開心要笑、傷心要哭，不要任何時候都挑戰自己極限。同時也不是只有快樂才可以和別人分享，有病痛要接受朋友的關心和安慰。當然我也一定會幫你，找回我這個好妹夫。他對你的不離不棄，遵守對你許下的婚姻承諾，是我最大的欣慰。

玲玲，你要好好安息，我們都在祝福你，同時也希望你知道我們都非常愛你。

　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　四姊嫻

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